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Category: Challenging Yourself

Stretching past your fear

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“By Mary Jo Asmus, of Aspire”

Very few leaders will claim that they are fearful of anything. Other words might be used because the word fear in itself is frightful. They might say that they “avoid” something, “mistrust” someone, or have “anxiety” – perhaps more acceptable terms to use.

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5 tips to public speaking

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article courtesy of  Barbara.Nixon”

So, this week I did something that pushed me way way out of my comfort zone. Something that to be honest I never thought I’d ever do (but actually something I’d secretly wanted to have a go at) and definitely something that taught me so much about me as a person.

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Can You Keep a Secret?

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By Maya James , of  Thin Difference”

I recently bought an apartment. I mean like still have a couple of boxes to unpack, recently. As most of you know from first-hand experience or can imagine, purchasing property of any size can be daunting. To some extent, it was, but not nearly as bad as it could have been, and I think I know why. For the first time in my adult life, I have consciously done something extremely progressive for me. I have been keeping more secrets. Not bad secrets. The good kind — my joys, projects, dating exploits, large purchases (like my apartment) and travel plans. And it feels so good!

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Strength To Be Successful

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“By Amy Morin, Business Philosophy”

Becoming mentally strong will separate you from the pack and help you achieve higher levels of success.

Everyone possesses mental strength to some degree. But the stronger you are, the more likely you are to achieve bigger and better goals.

Here are seven reasons why you need mental strength to be successful

1. Mental strength conquers self-doubt.
Whether your ambition is to run a marathon, or your goal is to double your revenue, you’ll likely experience self-doubt at one time or another. Questioning your goal—and your ability to achieve it—is a normal part of the attainment process. But when you’re mentally strong, you’ll be able to reframe your negative self-talk so you can continue working toward your goal with increased confidence.

2. Mental strength keeps you motivated.
It’s easy to stick to your goals when you feel motivated, but motivation waxes and wanes. Mental strength will help you keep moving toward your goal, even on the days you don’t feel like it. You’ll be able to dig deep and discover the inner strength you need when you’re tired, discouraged or unambitious.

3. Mental strength helps you tune out unhelpful advice.
Whether you want to please others or prove them wrong, other people’s opinions can easily drown out your own voice. Mental strength will help you tune out the unhelpful criticism and bad advice from those around you. Being strong will help you stay true to your values and keep you focused on making the best decisions, regardless of the feedback you receive from those around you.

4. Mental strength ensures you’ll learn from your mistakes.
Hiding your mistakes or making excuses for your blunders increases the chances that you’ll repeat those mistakes again. Mental strength helps you humbly accept responsibility for your actions so you can truly learn from your mistakes. With each lesson you learn, you’ll grow one step closer toward reaching your goal.

5. Mental strength provides courage to face your fears.
Stepping outside your comfort zone is difficult, but mental strength gives you the courage to face your fears head-on. When you’re feeling strong, you’ll have confidence that you can tolerate discomfort and you’ll be willing to move forward, despite your distress.

6. Mental strength assists you in bouncing back from failure.
While failure causes some people to give up, mentally strong people bounce back from failure even better than before. Mentally strong people have a high enough self-worth that they’re able to tolerate repeat failure without fear of ridicule. Building mental strength will help you use failure as a stepping stone to future success.

7. Mental strength helps you regulate your emotions.
The road to success is often filled with emotional highs and lows. If you lack adequate skills to regulate your emotions, you’ll struggle to resist temptation, delay gratification and take calculated risks. Mental strength is the key to controlling your emotions, so your feelings don’t cloud your judgement or lead you astray.

There will always be obstacles and challenges that threaten to derail your road to success. Building mental strength will help you develop resilience to life’s inevitable obstacles so you can overcome setbacks with confidence.

7 Reasons You Need Mental Strength To Be Successful

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“Amy Morin, of BusinessPhilosophyClub.info”

Becoming mentally strong will separate you from the pack and help you achieve higher levels of success.

Everyone possesses mental strength to some degree. But the stronger you are, the more likely you are to achieve bigger and better goals.

Here are seven reasons why you need mental strength to be successful:

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5 Things Successful Entrepreneurs Do on the Weekends

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How are you spending your Saturdays and Sundays? Here’s how to make sure you’re not wasting them.

If you’re like most people, you probably want to spend your Saturday and Sunday sleeping in, only to roll out of bed and onto the couch to veg out in front of a little mindless TV—but just until it’s time to change out of your sweats and into real clothes for dinner and a fun night of drinking. Right? Yeah, that’s most people, but not entrepreneurs.

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The Classic Goldilocks Problem: How to Ask Your Boss for Just the Right Amount of Work

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“By Sara McCord, of TheMuse.com”

In an ideal world, you’d have a perfect amount of work to fill your day. But let’s be real: The odds that you’ll just show up and be met with the exact right number of tasks are slim. It’s a lot more likely that you’ll (at least at times) feel overwhelmed, underutilized, or downright bored.

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How Fishing Has Taught Me to Keep Trying to Catch What I Want

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“by Suze Orman, https://www.linkedin.com”

In this series of posts, professionals reveal their best antidotes to work stress. Read the posts here, and then write your own (use #OutsideWork in the piece).

I’ve always said it is important to have both of your feet in one boat. Otherwise, if you have one foot in one boat known as work and the other foot in another boat known as a personal life, you will absolutely fall into the abyss of confusion when those boats start to go into different directions.

So for me, work and play has always been one. And I love both equally.

I will never forget sitting on the stage of “The View” when Barbara Walters looked at me and asked, “Why are you always so happy?” And my answer to her was this:

“Because I never do one thing in life that I do not want to do.”

Now you may be reading that and saying, “Well, she has the money to pick and choose.” NO. I did not start out with money, as you know — and there was a period of time when I only worked seven days a week, 20 hours a day. I would do the Today show in the morning and catch a plane to LA to do the Larry King show that night. During my first PBS special, I flew 70,000 miles in one month — in coach — to be at every station who wanted me to pledge “The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom.” I could go on and on.

But every action I took, appearance or book I made, talk that I gave, or TV show I was on, I have to say I loved every single minute of it.

But with that said, I play just as hard — and love every second of it as well. Over the past few years I have taken up fishing. Yep, you read that right. It has given me an entirely new perspective on life. Now when I am asked who I admire most, what comes to mind are all the great fishermen and women I have met over the past few years. The amount of information one needs to know (figuring out what bait, line, or hook is needed to catch a particular fish and then being able to catch it and get it in the boat) is just amazing.

From Eleuthera to Alaska, fishing has also given me endless hours of joy. When I say hours of joy, I mean it. KT and I will leave around 2 p.m. in the afternoon on our little boat — just the two of us and not come back till 8 p.m. or 9 p.m. that night. Sometimes people get worried about us. They say, “There is no way those girls are still out fishing,” but indeed we are.

It does not even matter if we don’t catch anything, which has happened a few times. The mere fact that we are trying brings me incredible pleasure.

I have to admit that I really am a far better fisherwoman than KT, but she still likes to tell me how to do it — and I let her.

Obviously part of fishing is the boat. To think that I now know how to captain a boat — and really know what I am doing and where I am going — is something that I never thought I would be saying. I am sure many of you are thinking: “What’s the big deal? They have staff to clean the boat and make sure it is perfect when they take it out.” Well if that is what you are thinking, you could not be more wrong if you tried. We also love working (playing on our boat), and we are the ones who wash it every single time we bring it in. We remove the cushions and make sure nothing gets mildewed; we are the ones who set the lines, tie up our own boat, and make sure it is secure in storms.

All the fish we catch, we eat. And again we had to learn how to filet the fish, gut the fish, and make ready ourselves for the meal. Our proudest accomplishment was learning how to get a conch out of its shell. It’s hard, seriously hard. But easy once you know the trick. 

If someone said to me that I had to choose between my work life and my fishing life, I would have to tell you that on no level would I be able to do that. In my mind again, it is all ONE LIFE.

What I learn in the hours on the ocean, I use in the advice that I give people financially. It gives me a real way to look at the world and to take responsibility for every action that is taken.  

What I learn in work also pays off in my fishing world. If I really want a deal, I just have to keep putting that hook back in the water over and over again till I catch what I want. If I give up, then I miss the fish or the deal — they both got away.

My greatest advice is this: There is one thing in life that is known as the great destructor of all and that is known as time. There is only one way to conquer time and that is through love.

One thing I know for sure is this: Love, who you are, what you do, what you create, and who you surround yourself with — all of it is totally in your hands. If you are holding something in your life that you do not like, let it go. Do not be afraid. When you open your hands up to release that which you have been hanging onto, you will be amazed what will be sent your way. With your hands open, you will be able to grab hold of something new.

Whether it is a fish, a person, a deal, or just a moment in time, your life can be steered in the direction you want as long as your feet are in one boat.

Why Mark Zuckerberg’s New Year’s Challenge Just Might Work

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“by Jena McGregor, https://www.washingtonpost.com”

As New Year’s resolutions go, this one will put your “clean out my inbox” or “lose 15 pounds” to shame.

Facebook co-founder and CEO Mark Zuckerberg posted on his Facebook page Sunday that his personal goal for 2016 “is to build a simple AI to run my home and help me with my work,” he wrote. Comparing it to the digital butler who assists Tony Stark with his superhero life, Zuckerberg wrote, “you can think of it kind of like Jarvis in Iron Man.”

He’ll start by looking into existing technology, then teach it to use his voice to control his home, let in friends the system recognizes when they ring the doorbell, monitor his infant daughter’s room, and see work-related data in virtual reality. “This should be a fun intellectual challenge to code this for myself,” he wrote.

You know, just simple artificial intelligence. Simple stuff. Fun stuff.

Zuckerberg’s ambitious “personal challenge,” as he calls it, is an annual tradition for the Facebook wunderkind, who sets public goals for himself each year that range from the lofty to the quirky. Last year, he said he wanted to read a book every two weeks. Other goals have included learning to speak Mandarin (2010), only eating meat from animals he’d personally killed (2011) and meeting someone new each day—in person, not on social media (2013).

Obviously, these aren’t the typical lose-weight or get-organized fodder that make up most resolutions.

Knowing very little about artificial intelligence, I can’t predict just how probable Zuckerberg’s challenge to himself really is. But if the technological possibility is indeed within reach, it seems likely he’ll reach it.

That’s not just because he has massive resources to put toward it: Even after he said he’d donate 99 percent of his Facebook stock last month, Zuckerberg would still have some $450 million leftover, given recent valuations. Nor is it simply due to his record of following through on past challenges. Zuckerberg gave a 20-minute speech in Mandarin at Tsinghua University in Beijing last fall and held a 30-minute Q&A the year before in the language—both described as mediocre but admirable attempts at the difficult language.

Rather, it’s also because he makes his personal challenges so public. No other CEO’s personal attempts at self-improvement garner as many headlines as Zuckerberg’s. That may be because of how few CEOs actually make such declarations public, how bold Zuckerberg’s goals tend to be, or how much fascination there is with the lives of Silicon Valley’s uber-elite.

But it also likely works to Zuckerberg’s advantage. Research has shown that a person’s commitment to difficult goals is much higher when the goals are made public rather than kept private. As Wharton assistant professor Drew Carton recently told On Leadership for a roundup of advice for sticking to professional New Year’s resolutions, “we don’t like the ignominy that comes with other people knowing that we haven’t met our goals.”

For most of us, that shame would only come from the few people we’d told. In Zuckerberg’s case, millions will know if he doesn’t reach it—or at least put forth a worthy effort. If Zuckerberg ends up coding a digital butler who can open the door of his home to Sheryl Sandberg or poke him if baby Max starts coughing during her nap—and especially if the Facebook chief doesn’t—we’re likely to hear about it. There are few greater fuels toward our goals than overt failure, and public accountability is a powerful force.

 

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