“By Nicolas Cole, of Inc.com”
Selfishness in the workplace is like the black plague. It spreads. It is contagious. It rubs off on people and before you know it, the trait becomes ingrained in the company’s culture. And the worst part? People don’t even recognize it. Selfishness is disguised as confidence, bravado, “expertise” and drive.
How do you spot this bad habit?
Here are 7 things selfish people do:
1. They Withhold Important Information
This is the person who wants to walk in at the last second, score the game winning shot, and take all the credit. They’ll gladly watch their team struggle if it means being seen as the “hero” in the end.
As long as they end up the star, the project is a “success.”
2. They Do Not Respect Other People’s Time
It’s one thing to take breaks here and there, catch up, lighten the mood, chat, etc. But these are the people who have no awareness of the things you need to get done as well. They want what they want, when they want it–and whatever you’ve got going on isn’t of any importance.
It’s their schedule that dictates the relationship.
3. They Do Not Like To Teach
And do you know why?
Because they’re afraid that if you learn how to do what they do, you’ll replace them–that’s the truth of it. They would rather be the only one who knows how to do something, so that they can feel safe and in charge and without competition.
4. They Do Not Listen
These people ask how you’re doing, so they can tell you how they’re doing. They don’t really want to hear about your weekend–they want to tell you about theirs. They aren’t concerned with what you’ve going on, but they want you to be very concerned about what they’ve got going on.
They think dialogue is a one-way street.
5. They Avoid Responsibility
If something bad happens, they’re the first to point the finger–or at the very least, deflect any fingers from being pointed at them. They couldn’t have possibly done anything wrong!
They live with the perpetual belief that any and all mistakes happen separately from themselves.
6. They Take All The Credit
On the flip-side, when something goes right, they’re right there to take the credit for it. They were the one who brought it all together. They were the solution, the advocator, the positive inspiration.
They want everyone to know how important they are to the situation–and will gladly make it known to the collective.
7. They Bring Others Down To Build Themselves Up
And finally, they contribute to a toxic culture of tearing others down. They aren’t really trying to give helpful feedback or improve the work. Their goal is to make others feel less confident in themselves, in an attempt to create their own sense of false confidence.
They are selfish.